I feel kind of silly using ‘real life friends’ as my post title, as it’s kind of a new term within our generation. We are so connected through social media and the internet, strangers we’ve never met can become our ‘cyber friends.’ However, we all know you can’t live on ‘cyber friends’ alone, and real human interaction and friendship is needed to live a normal life.
Everyone wants friends right?
The first problem is this: When you live a life of travel, those ‘real life friends’ you’ve had your whole life get further and further away as you leave for destinations you only dreamed of. Sure you can call, iMessage, and FaceTime your friends, but it’s not long before that ‘real life friend’ relationship fades into a ‘cyber friend’ relationship.
The second problem? As we get older, it becomes harder and harder to make friends. Could be because we get stuck in our ways and would rather live comfortably than go out and meet new people. I wish it wasn’t so.
I’ve been talking to Derik a lot about this lately, as I have felt that unsettling feeling of loneliness that creeps in to my soul as we begin our lives in a new country. Friends will come, I know that. It took me well over a year in Korea to find a good quality friend after being burnt twice by people that were more than willing use my friendship for personal gain. I was a bit leery to give the third girl a shot and really open up to her, but she turned out to be one of the best friends I’ve ever had. We still stay in contact, it’s just difficult living so far apart…as it is with all friendships.
I’m not really sure what the point of this post is, except to say that:
making friends while traveling is pretty darn difficult.
It’s not like I can just waltz into a coffee shop and come out with a friend. Most adults after college make their friends in the workplace, but since I work at home that has proven rather tough as well! Derik and I love to go out and enjoy the local pubs, go to movies, workout at the gym 4 times a week, and shop in the farmer’s markets. Unfortunately we live in a university town, and everyone already has their circle of friends.
I want a ‘real life friend’ here in New Zealand, but the problem is how exactly to get one?
Stay tuned. I’ll keep you updated on how the friend hunting goes.
What’s your secret to making new friends while traveling?